The cards mailed have been returned. The emails to both mother and son have not been answered since she demanded this web site be removed before we could “negotiate to see him”. In fact, the last email to Ben did not even go through. He probably has no idea of all the times we have tried to contact him.

She fears his friends could see this site and it would embarrass him. I pray someone does see it and can get this message to him.

Dear Ben,

Gramma and Grampa K. are missing you so much and have tried so often to reach you through mail and email.

It’s unfair to all of us that we can’t be in touch with each other. Be sure you understand that your mother made an impossible situation for your dad who only tried to protect you from the drugs you don’t need, that make you not feel like your real self and that you don’t like. Your dad loves you and waits for the day you will be together again. In time you will be able to make that decision for yourself so do what’s right and be a good kid.

We would love to hear from you. Now, if you see or hear about this note, you will have our email again. Can’t believe you are almost 12! So many good times we had together at our house in Arizona. Don’t ever forget how much we miss you and it shouldn’t be like this.

We’ll just have to wait it out. All the family is thinking about you especially at Christmas. God bless you. We pray for you every day that you can stay well. We love you and miss you so very much.

Gramma and Grampa K.

Anyway, about 8 months ago, you came into my mind and I started looking for you online to see what you were up to these days. I was shocked to find out what has happened since we last spoke.
I am completely heartbroken for you.

I remember nothing but a wonderful father. You spoke endlessly about Ben and I could just tell you loved him so very much. I remember little examples you would post about things you taught him and the WAY you would give him lessons about life and the world.

I too have fought a battle against ritalin and adderall… not against the father of my children, but against every teacher and school my son has had. I always won the battles, completely refusing to put a pill in my son’s mouth. I wrote letters, submitted documentation from his doctor stating that he does not have adhd, yet still, the teachers would persist.

What teacher WOULDN’T want to “calm down” 30 children. They just want a bunch of zombies in their class so it’s easier.

My son is now 18 years old and a wonderful person. I have no regret for my fight and refusal to drug him.

Now, to hear your story and to watch that video of Ben above… well, I am just PISSED OFF. I am frustrated and sick to my stomach at the thought of this happening to a GREAT father.

What is the latest update? Where are you? I want to DO something!!

Isn’t it time we all stop torturing each other and get this resolved? Don’t we all deserve far more than this? I say “yes” and “yes.”

Jim’s big scary crime was what, again? Oh, that’s right, he loved his son too much to stand by and let him be poisoned.

And now Ben can’t see his father and Jim can’t see Ben. For what reason, again? I have a hard time remembering what Jim did that was so bad he’s looking at half a year of his life, or more, in prison. Oh yeah, remember now, he violated his parole by trying to schedule a time to pick his son up per the judge’s custody order.

This is madness that serves no one and it’s time for it to end.

And it’s also time we all stop blaming Shelley. At least it is for me. She can’t help who she is or what she’s done, and holding those feeling against her doesn’t do anyone, particularly Ben, any good. That must end.

I say it’s time we learn how to forgive and how to heal so we can all return to some sense of normalcy that removes Ben from the freak show and gives him the sort of childhood he richly deserves.

You can also contact me for any help I can possibly provide.

Joe

And yes …he will be more susceptible to Methamphetamine in his life…GOD help you.